Monday, November 23, 2009

Compound Interest

This is a story about how hard it is being TMAME.

SRSLY!

So, one evening, not too long ago I was telling Jinian about a MFM I was setting up for a lady I met on Ashley Madison.  She then informed me that I had never set up an MFM for her.

What?  After almost two years and many many many forms of kink and multiple partner scenes, was it possible that I had missed the simple and fun combination?  Why yes apparently it was.  I thought quickly and settled on Mr. Bakery for the other M in question.  This was most acceptable to Jinian.

After these set ups, another woman I had met and played sadistically with on fetlife informed me that she would like an MFM too.  I went forth and called upon my kink-buddies to help set up yet another MFM.  

Are you counting?  That's three count them three MFMs all within the space of about a month.

I figured I should thank Mrs. Bakery for her contribution to the project.  I offered her some free rigging, a personal pick-me-up call, or really anything she could desire that was within my means to provide.  She thought about it and told me that she's really like MFFF.  I knew Jinian & Eris would be more than happy to be the FF of the equation and I told her that it would be no problem to send the two of them over for her desire.  I figured Mr. Bakery would not be displeased at this outcome either.  Then Mrs. Bakery laid the bombshell on me.

She wanted me to be the M of her MFFF.

What have a learned from this - the work of TMAME is never finished!

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Matson Jones

NYC was an exercise in contradictions. Eris & I were ostensibly there for the sex blogger calendar party, but we got way more than just a party. We got an inflection point experience.  I must thank Diva & Tess for the invite, and for the experience.

The pace of our adventure was alternatively languorous breakfast, followed by torpid waiting, then manic celebration all topped off with exhausted late-night dining.

The party itself was an event of introverted horrors. I, nor Eris for that matter, are comfortable in serious crowds of over 100 people. It's not that we don't enjoy the crush of large groups, it's just that we function better in the small. The irony of this was seeing many calendar models like Audacia go through the same thing in person. I will have to say the best part of my evening for the party was hawking calendars with Max Lagos and Janeygirrl. If you missed this snappy patter in person, I'll replay it here.

Me: Hey do you have you NYC Sex-bloggers calendar? All proceeds go to SWA.
Attendee: I've already got mine.
Me: Well, do you have someone else's calendar?
Attendee: *looking puzzled* No...
Me: You should get them one!

The next day saw Eris and I wandering Manhattan and Chinatown. The thing we learned about Manhattan was that it was all the same freaking shops we have here (United States of Generica), but they're at the bottom of 30-story buildings. Chinatown was packed and probably the most interesting place we went during the whole trip. Jewelers right next to open fish markets - what a place. It was also the home of the $3 dumpling soup meal that fed the both of us.

We also went to ground zero.

Early in the evening we attended Monk's class on sensual bondage.  It was a great experience and one I won't soon forget.  It was also way too short.  He's an awesome instructor and knows how to make everyone feel comfortable.  His passion for his work shows through as well.  You really can't ask much more of a teacher.

Later that evening we went to an SWA event that covered Audacia's trip to India as well as some of the other work that SWA has been doing. It was very interesting to see Ms. Ray in a more comfortable environment. Methinks she's also an extroverted introvert like myself. She was *far* more comfortable when there weren't 200 other people around. Talking with Audacia, Melissa Gira, and Melissa Ditmore was fascinating and we'll both be supporting their ongoing work for sex-worker's rights.

I would also be remiss if I didn't mention all of the fantabulous twitter-ati that we managed to meet in person - butchtastickyle, sroxy, coyotetoo, b_playful, badbadgirlx, and firecatkitty.  It was a pleasure to meet  you all.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

Thus spake the oracle

Everything has turned out as I predicted, but not as I foresaw.