what's wrong with you?
In what way?
well uh your age and you are single?
is there anything wrong?
I'm 43 and no I'm not single as I state in my profile. Was that not clear? Hang on and let me check how my profile looks.
How are you?
you are not single? what are you doing on here?
I'm looking for other polyamorous people to meet, date, befriend.
hmmmm polyamorous and not single is an oxymoron
How so? I'm married ergo not single. Maybe we define those terms differently?
evidemment
How would you define polyamory?
open to many partners
how would you define married?
A contractual agreement between two people that defines a relationship status in terms of property disbursement and legal recognition of that status.
I personally define polyamory as 'many loves' This has no relationship to marital status IMO
and protects each partner in the case of any fearful associations with another insofar as either can run home and say 'sorry, I am married'
It establishes a definite primary relationship status.
yes it does, so it is many loves then, with one superior one?
hierarchical
not poly
poly is equal playing field
In my case yes. I can't speak for everyone else.
this is not
I didn't realize there was a hardline definition.
Maybe I should change my status to 'having mistresses with my wife's permission?'
well who would want to come into a second shrift position? like Hi, I want to be polyamorous but you are second choice?
I'd say change it to 'looking to fuck around'
I don't phrase it like that, nor do I approach it like that. When I'm with partner n, my sole focus is on that partner. I'm not phoning home or using my wife as an excuse for problems that arise with that non-marital relationship. Make of that what you will
well I don't call it 'poly' anything - it is clearly primary with secondary messes
poly implies equality -
married and screwing around is another issue
I didn't realize there was a legal structure to all of this or a clear delineation of roles/rules.
well I have a clear delineation of it, have no idea what you mean by 'to all of this'
I have clear needs and clear issues
and polyamorous is fine but I don't believe you are that
poly implies many to me, since polygon, polynomial, pollyhedron all use it as a modifier, could be my math background though.
not married with your involvements taking second shrift to your marriage
well in a polyhedron no ONE angle is more important than another, is it?
I've never been lectured by the polyamory police.
the formations you reference have no hierarchies of angularity, so how can you say their makeup is commensurate with your situation?
I'll reference you to isosceles and obtuse triangles. One angle is of greater degree than the others.
*That* is exactly commensurate.
you didn't reference me to these, you referenced those forms that had the preface POLY in their names
that is NOT commensurate
horse shit
you are backpedaling now....not cool in any way
not cool
polygon, was in my reference. A triangle is a polygon unless you get to define geometry. An obtuse triangle has one angle greater than the other two.
ok you are now saying that you are not poly amorous - that means all loves are equal -
POLY AMOROUS is equal love to many partners
no one is greater than another
I'm not backpedalling geometry. You said that none of my examples were similar to my relationship.
you are lying
you have a situation which is not polyamorous
That would be equiamorous, not polyamorous
you are married and want to fuck around
clear, plain
revolting and NOT polyamorous
So there you have it, I'm not poly according to the poly-police!
